17 AUGUST 2023
In this article, we explore strategies for helping children settle into the home environment, outlining hints and tips including getting into a routine, communication, using reward systems and improving self-esteem.
Briefly and clearly express instructions
Neurodivergent children may struggle with listening, thinking before acting, organising tasks, and remembering and retaining information. To help them effectively, instructions should be simple and clearly communicated.
Acknowledge good behaviour
As parents, it’s easy to focus on challenging or negative behaviours. Make sure to also recognise and praise positive behaviours, so your child feels encouraged and supported in their growth.
Establish a structure and routine
Neurodivergent children need to feel safe and secure in a world that can often feel confusing and overwhelming. They thrive when expectations are clear and when they can predict what will happen next.
Remain calm to reduce and prevent escalation
When you remain composed, it sets a reassuring tone for your child, making it easier for them to regulate their own emotions. Gently and patiently repeating instructions, without raising your voice or showing frustration, can provide the consistency and clarity your child needs to understand what’s expected. This calm approach helps reduce tension, supports your child’s ability to stay focused, and creates a more positive environment for resolving challenges.
Allow time to calm down
If escalation happens, calming down becomes the top priority. Neurodivergent children often cannot calm down if you keep engaging with them, and it’s nearly impossible to reason with someone who is highly anxious or upset. For this reason, it’s important to give them time and space to regain their calm before trying to communicate or resolve the situation.
Use rewards systems
The most effective reward systems are those that set achievable goals, ensuring the child feels successful rather than discouraged. It’s important to avoid using money as a reward, as it may not promote lasting motivation or positive behaviour. Consistency is also key. Rewards should be given reliably and fairly to help reinforce desired behaviours and build a strong sense of trust and motivation in the child.
